When you finally meet someone who you really connect with and just ‘gets you,’ you want to spend as much time as possible with them and find yourself getting into some of the same things they do.  Whether it’s trying new foods they like, music they enjoy, sports or other activities… it can be great to try new things!  But if you’re a little older or done with school, sometimes it can be tempting to ‘lock’ yourself in with this person by doing things like a joint cell phone plan (because it’s cheaper), getting a dog or other pet together, applying for a lease on a car or even signing a lease on an apartment!

The problem is, when you first fall for someone, the brain releases an abnormal amount of chemicals into the body, affecting how we think and feel.  Chemicals like dopamine, Norepinephrine, and Oxytocin can make you feel like you’re in an altered state of mine and cause you to do things that you normally wouldn’t do or lock you into the other person.  But eventually you come down off that ‘high’ and in many cases, realize it’s not someone you see yourself with forever.  However, you already locked yourself in without giving yourself the chance to come too and see things clearly.

So what might be a better way?  Take your time, enjoy getting to know each other but leave out the things that might ‘lock’ you together, making it harder to break up in case you realize this is not your forever person.  Do the things that bring you closer, not slide into the things that lock you in!  This 4 minute video below is amazing and really sums this all up perfectly!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CwlLyhebmro